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My Depression

Dr. Al Danenberg Nutritional Periodontist

July 15, 2019

 

 

 

My Depression

 

My journey to fight my cancer has taken some ups and downs – both medically and emotionally. Rather than being a straight road, it has been a roller-coaster ride.

 

Medically, I have been on a path that has allowed me to keep my bone marrow cancer stable. Frequently, I have tweaked my protocol to hopefully improve my results. However, I am not in remission, and I never was in remission. While I have had a couple of setbacks, today I feel relatively alert, healthy, and energetic. One of my greatest joys is that I am surprising my oncologist and defying his original prognosis to live only 3-6 months from the date of my diagnosis in September 2018.

 

Emotionally, when I go down that roller-coaster, I can go way down. It’s rare, but once I’m there, I am a mess.

 

My biggest emotional challenge has been to deal with my innermost feelings. Sadly, when I am really down, my negative energy is contagious and spreads to those whom I hold dear. As this nostalgic song title claims, “You always hurt the one you love”.[1]

 

Fortunately, I have found that writing is therapeutic. When I put into words how I feel – no matter how irrational those thoughts might be – I am able to bring myself back to a much better place. So, I want to share my recent experience that exposes the depth of my emotional weakness. I am opening myself up for all to see. Maybe this will be cathartic for someone who reads it.

 

To give you a heads-up, the outcome from this moment-in-time strengthened me. Right after I finished my writing, I felt better. Here is what I wrote only minutes ago:

 

I’m sitting at my computer. My fingers are clicking away. A story is developing. Thoughts are floating and bumping and getting out of proportion. Emotion is taking over rational thinking. I am depressed!

 

I’ve been a pillar of motivation through logical thinking, practical expectations, and a strong sense of purpose. But I’m human. And I get depressed at times. And I’m depressed now.

 

I’m not depressed because of my incurable bone marrow cancer. I never was in a state of denial. From the onset of my diagnosis and prognosis, I was OK with it. I knew I would be proactive with my unconventional protocol to deal with my disease. Whatever the outcome would be, I knew I would have done my best.

 

I’m not depressed with the thought of dying, since I am comfortable with my belief in the transition from the physical world into the spiritual world when it is my time. As a matter of fact, I feel blessed to know what I know. Realizing my bone marrow cancer is not curable and my life expectancy is limited, I can make amends as necessary, say good-bye to those I love, and delve into my bucket list ASAP. It’s as if I have been given a “heads-up” to get my act together now.

 

I’m not depressed because of pain because I have been able to deal with it through non-narcotic medicines. Although I have discomfort all the time, my quality of life has been good. I have no regrets. My outlook has been positive at least 95% of the time.

 

So, I ask myself, “Why am I depressed right now?” As I put more thought into the question, I come up with two causes – (1) abruptly leaving my wife alone after my death and (2) feeling I have little purpose left in life now.

 

I can trace both feelings back to when my wife and I celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary on 6/22/19. My emotions ran high then because we didn’t think I would have been alive on 6/22/19. Moments ago, the thought of leaving her alone overwhelmed me. This transferred to doubting my self-worth.

 

 

You just read my thoughts revealing my weakest emotional moment. Translating my feelings into words is empowering for me. Bringing these dark emotions into the light has immediately helped me deal with them more effectively. Instead of them festering within me, they are now diffusing and deactivating. My therapeutic writing is helping me climb out of my funk and return to my positive view on my mortality.

 

I hope the following is your takeaway after reading my post:

 

Everyone gets depressed at times. Some situations causing depression are more obvious than others. Some depression is deeper than others. Some factors are beyond your control to fix. Yet, if you can identify what is causing your “down” moment and speak about it or write about it, you may be able to rise above it quickly. For the most part, this is how I have dealt with my infrequent bouts of depression.

 

Next time, I’ll bring you less emotion and more practical stuff.

 

In good health,
Dr. Al

 

[1] Song released by the Mills Brothers in 1944

 

 

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12 Comments

  • Jenny Wilkinson

    All sounds perfectly understandable and reasonable to me! Could some of the depression be down to the medication you are on? Seems your purpose at the moment is to help us other humans cope with what life throws at us. Very best wishes as always, Jenny

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  • Dwight Mattix

    “Next time, I’ll bring you less emotion and more practical stuff.”

    “Right after I finished my writing, I felt better.”

    Ah but this was indeed practical. Out of the head and heart, onto the page. Thanks for sharing.

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  • James Tran

    I often like to journal my own thoughts as well when I feel depressed .. thanks for sharing

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  • Dana Mccarthy

    I have found your writings very inspirational.

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  • carol

    Thank you!

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  • RENEE TURULA

    The other side of the room has been longing for this voice to be heard. Knowing the truth sets you free, when the ones you love know the truth this brings peace. Its the darkness of lies and deception which weigh down the soul. The end of life I have been present many times, also the first breath and cry of awakening. Nothing bring greater joy than the ability to hear and feel honest, passionate, love, and truth. Sometimes it takes a whole life to hear someone’s truth from inside. Sometimes it will never be shared and remain captive. You have chosen well…thank you for reaching out to those on the other side of the room.

    Much Love & Prayers for the Journey, Renee

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  • Heidi

    Dr. D, this IS ‘practical stuff’! thank you for sharing your thoughts and emotions. You are spot on. Writing letters has always helped me clear my mind, though I didn’t mail most of these letters. Or, as a kid I used to draw/paint my negative emotions away. Even if the drawing wasn’t beautiful, it always helped.

    Your impact on others may be even greater than it was before your disease. Seeing you go on this particular path, which in one way or another, we all will walk, gives me (and I bet many others) lots of guidance,and strength. Even more so than your medical advice, which already was very impactful.

    Bless you and your loved ones. And many thanks.

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  • Labell

    I am overwhelmed with emotion as I read this. Dr Danenberg is truly a remarkable person and an inspiration to me ,.. I would love it if you shared more about your spirituality…I think you have a grand purpose.

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  • Jim Nelms

    Thank you for sharing your heart Dr. Danenberg – finish well my friend…

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  • Laura Fontaine

    I believe you can beat this! I googled has anyone healed themselves holistically and recently I saw a man with stage 4 MM and he is down to smoldering in two years. He went to Mexico with his wife to be treated, but all that we have here will also cure you. I know you can do it! Do not give up hope, because there are people out there curing themselves and you will lead the pack one day! Dr Keogh was my doctor and I am thrilled you are showing him there are two ways to look at every situation! Hang in there, be happy, be excited because you are going to beat this!!

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  • Sue

    Sharing and demonstrating that writing can be therapeutic is practical! Someone reading this post may now try writing to help them with what they’re going through!

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  • Vish C

    Hello Dr. Al,

    As long as you can breathe, you fight! Sending my best wishes and thoughts.

    Vish
    COO
    Instaread, inc

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